Episode 84

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6th Feb 2023

Practical Tips to Take the Stress Out of 1st Dates | E84 Cara Hays

It might just be my circle but so many of my friends are recently single and I’m hearing the war stories of 1st dates. From coordinating plans, getting catfished, talking to a brick wall, and awkward goodbyes, I gotta say, I’m not jealous.

 


Being in a long-term monogamous relationship has its struggles, but taking Gaby out on a date is not (usually) an exasperating process.


 


I think it is totally justifiable and I see why this stress would keep you wavering in and out of the dating scene. I have thoughts and I’d love to help but being in a committed relationship for the last 5 years hasn’t left me with very little practical experience to share on this struggle.


 


But our former guest, Cara Hays had a lot of great ideas so we pulled a clip from her interview, episode 43, where she shared practical tips on how to make 1st dates less stressful and more enjoyable.


 


Key Takeaways:


  • A simple strategy to make sure the date doesn’t go too long


  • How to take the stress out of what to wear

 


Mentions:


Cara Hays’ original episode on TSIR: www.tsirpodcast.com/43


 


More of Cara:


Website: https://www.carahays.com/


 


More of The Struggle is Real:


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